Cat Chapin-Bishop left me this note:
You write, "Part of that might be a Frigga thing. Heathens know about Frigga and silence," and I am filled with curiosity...
I know that I pretty much keep what Norse mythological elements crop up in my Pagan workings to myself; I'm just tired of being told that my visions don't fit the Eddas. (If a spiritual life that is consistent with written material were my primary concern, why wouldn't I be a fundamentalist Christian, I wonder?)
I'm not saying I'm fond of shoddy scholarship. But I do find a certain heavy-handedness among a fair number of Asatruir--along with the tendency to shout at the gods during ritual, as they are presumably hard of hearing...?
"Axetru"--yeah. Or "Norse Fundamentalist"--something I've sometimes irritably been inclined to say, to characterize things I find annoying in the Heathen community.
Nonetheless, Heathens have a lot of strong and beautiful elements to their practice. The gods themselves, of course... a more down-to-earth approach to community and to ritual than is often found in Wiccan circles, at least. I wonder if it is possible to hold out against the borg-like assimilationism of eclectic Wicca, but without quite so much heavy-handedness?
Maybe it's time for someone to begin speaking out for hospitality and graciousness among Heathens? That would be nice. And not out of character for the religion, as I understand its history...
Perhaps this blog will become one such voice? I hope so. I'm certainly enjoying your writing so far.I blush, Cat. I hope it can become one such voice. Oh, I'm given to flights of temper at times, as is any human woman, and I hope I can be forgiven for it if it does pop up. I'm a Sagittarius, after all! But I don't really mean any harm when I accidentally step on people's toes.
You inquired about Frigga and silence. Oooh, that's a huge lesson that I think She has for me. Let me try to explain as best I can.
Frigga Allmother is associated with silence for a couple of reasons.
First, a small snippet of dialog from the
Lokasenna:LOKI: Quiet, Frigg, you are Fjorgyn's maid and have ever sought dalliance, as when you, Vidrer's woman, clasped both Vile and Vi to your bosom.
FRIGG: Had I a son such as Balder here in Ager's hall you would not escape the sons of the Aesir without being badly beaten.
LOKI: Well, Frigg, will you that I tell more of my harmful runes? I shall work it so that you shall not again see Balder riding to the halls.
FREYA: You are mad, Loki, ranting your evil doings; Frigg, I know, knows every being's fate, though she herself says naught.By the way, this is why I do not maintain that Freyja and Frigga are but aspects of each other; right here shows that they are separate Divine beings.
But yes, this is part of where Heathens get the traditional association of Frigga with silence and not being inclined to be an outspoken Goddess.
There's another even deeper situation that taught Frigga about silence. It involves how She lost Baldur. Here's how I understand it:
Hela desired Baldur for Herself; after all, Baldur was handsome and strong and the very picture of Nordic manhood. She sent Him dreams of Her desire, and this disturbed Him. He mentioned these dreams to His mother Frigga, and She became very concerned for Him; She did not want to see Him leave Her for Helaheim.
Frigg took it upon Herself to travel all throughout the Nine Worlds, extracting from every living being a vow that it would never harm Her precious Son Baldur. There was only one thing She missed - the mistletoe. Stories differ on whether She just accidentally overlooked it or thought it too small to be of any consequence. Either way, the mistletoe never gave a vow to not harm Baldur.
Well, when She was done with this task, the Gods decided to have a little sport one day and They all gathered to throw weapons and such at Baldur, and They were laughing as each weapon or stone or whatever bounced off of Him. Loki was also present for this, and he watched for a little while, thinking carefully about what he was seeing.
He then went off and disguised himself as an old woman, and wandered over to Frigga to ask what was going on. She told him the whole story, and She even mentioned that the only item that had not given its pledge to never harm Baldur was the mistletoe. "But," Frigga reasoned, "it's such a tiny plant anyway, so it won't matter."
Loki as old woman nodded and then made his excuses and was off.
He fashioned a dart with mistletoe on it, and then went back to the field where the Gods were still having Their fun - all except Hodur, the blind God of Fate. Loki strolled over to Hodur, and said, "Well, what's all this? Everyone is enjoying the sport but you! How can they treat you like this?"
Hodur responded: "Loki, I am blind - I cannot see to throw anything at Baldur, so of course I can't really participate."
Loki said: "Nonsense. I will guide your hand, Hodur. Here, I have a dart right here you can use." And he placed the mistletoe dart in Hodur's hand - which he guided right towards Baldur.
And yes, this dart killed Baldur.
Naturally, all the Gods were completely beside themselves, and vowed to destroy whomever was responsible for this. Loki, for his part, had managed to slip out unnoticed.
Hermod, for his part, borrowed Odin's horse Sleipnir and rode to Hel to try and ransom Baldur back - this is almost a whole other tale, but it did not work out (and yes, Loki's hand was in that too).
But it comes down to this: the one thing that Frigga strove the hardest to avoid, wherein She expended all that energy going through the Nine Worlds to get those promises from everything to never harm Baldur, was the one thing that came to Her.
From that situation, She learned the part of the "witches' pyramid" that says "...and to know when to keep silence." If She had never told all the other Gods that Baldur was "invincible" then They would never have been out on that field chucking weapons at Him for sport...and Loki would never have seen it all...and Loki would never have disguised himself as the old woman and got Frigga to tell him about the mistletoe...and he then would not have known to fashion a dart with mistletoe and to use Hodur to launch the dart that killed Baldur.
But Frigga does also teach forgiveness in this situation.
In order to demonstrate that She bore the mistletoe itself no ill will, She declared that when couples meet under it at the turning of the year - Yuletide - they should kiss as a sign of Her love. (Frigga's name means "the Beloved" or as Frigg "Beloved" and some do take Her as the love Goddess of the Aesir, where Freyja is the love Goddess of the Vanir.)
And that's how the tradition of kissing under the mistletoe at Christmas/Yuletide came to be.
So there's another way that Frigga came to be associated with silence and not permitting loose lips to sink ships, as it were. That is rather a very long answer to that query, and there is even yet more (esp. concerning Frigga's handmaid Fulla, who is the Allmother's most trusted confidant) but I will have to write more of that later.
:whew: hahaha
I had a giggle at the comment about shouting at the Gods during ritual. That was funny. I do have to admit that sometimes my Joe's voice has a big, bold resonance to it when he does the hammer rite to hallow the sacred space. But hey, he's a big guy with a big, rich voice and big hearty laugh (I'd even go so far as to say it is a laugh like warm melted chocolate, sweet and sensual and sexy) so it's ok. I s'pose the shouting thing is an attempt to put on a bold and brave face before these Gods. Or maybe it is a way to inject some enthusiasm into the rite, and that's not so bad.
Unfortunately, I must confess that in a very large percentage of Wiccan rites I've been to over the last 20 years, the energy has been very low. It's almost like people are afraid to really let go and get thrilled about what they're doing. The energy to me has invariably felt nervous and like: "oooh, this is ritual, we have to be more solemn than even the folks down at St. Mary's, no giggling or laughing or having fun" etc. You get the idea. So I guess the heathens really are making a definite statement of "this is who I am, this is how I roll, and I will not be embarrassed or ashamed of it, I will not hide it, here it is for all to see! BOOYA!" LOL!
Believe me, my dear Cat, I count myself so very fortunate to have at my side a beautiful Odinsman (his name is Joe) who has
not lost his sense of humor by any stretch of the imagination - he is the first to laugh at everything (especially himself) when things get absurd. He's also found a nice balance between respecting the lore and the historical tradition and being a progressive heathen, open to innovation and creativity. He's not a slave to the past, not by a long shot. He's great to learn from.
And he has the prettiest brown eyes...
Um.
:blush:
Anyway, if Heathens get a little crazy about the lore, just remember that they really do believe that they are protecting something that is very valuble - the traditions of real people who came before us and some of whom were martyrs to the heathen ways. Maybe you've heard of Raud the Strong and how Olaf I of Norway killed him when he would not accept baptism? It was really grisly.
That's why many Heathens do get worked up about it. Real blood was shed for this. We know the names of some of those people and some we don't. I can have some sympathy for that viewpoint, for a few reasons that I'll have to dive into another day.
Beacuse it's 1am and I think I need to crash. I'm very tired. More later!!